Intimacy Playground FAQ
May 5-7, 2023, at Boulder Hot Springs, outside Boulder, Montana, we are hosting our Intimacy Cadre weekend workshop. Here you can get answers to many of your questions about the workshop and logistics.
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About the Workshop
The long answer: The word "intimacy" conjures up many meanings. Lots of people associate "intimacy" strictly with sex, and so some may think an "intimacy playground" is a place where we will be exploring sex and perhaps playing with it. What we (Dee Elle and Jim) mean by intimacy is much broader. To us, intimacy is deeply seeing and knowing whomever you are being intimate with (self, lover, friend, child, community) while also being deeply seen and known. That concept includes sexuality, but it also includes a lot more – basically all that it is to be us.
Therefore, we will be focused on practices related to reciprocal deep seeing and knowing, and we want these practices to be rooted in playfulness because it is the willingness to play that opens the heart and body to intimacy. We will play with foundational intimacy practices, centered around communication, but also the three keys of breath, movement, and sound that we believe open ourselves to a greater relationship with ourselves and others. And, yes, sexuality will be part of what we discuss, and sexual energy will be something we work with, but there will be no nudity (though clothing is optional in the women's pool and steam room room) and no explicitly sexual practices at this workshop.
And we are here to support you however you need to be supported. If something is too much for you, it's too much. If something is difficult but not too much, then let's see if we can make it fun and enjoyable. At some point, there will no doubt be an edge, some place that makes you uncomfortable. That is the nature of intimacy, but if you trust us, we'll do everything we can to make sure we have as much fun as possible pushing into and perhaps over that edge, increasing your comfort zone, and making you more open to intimacy.
What we mean by dancing is any intentional movement that is outside the ways you normally move your body. That is, you could just be wigging your fingers or toes, and that could have the intention of dance. So, even if you are physically unable to do what most people call dancing, you can dance even if all you move are your eyes or lips. Moreover, we are not doing any dancing that requires the need to learn dance steps.
So, by our definition, everyone can dance. The only question is whether you choose to do that with other people around, which you may not choose for all kinds of reasons. Just know that we will support your decision. If that answer to whether you will dance might be a "yes," we know that movement, especially dance, is a key aspect to opening up intimacy. If you want to know more why we think so, consider listening to our podcast on the topic.
Friday, May 5
3-5 PM Check-In
6-10 Opening Session
Saturday, May 6
7-8 AM Morning Meditation
9-Noon Morning Session
Noon-4 PM Lunch and Break/Hot Springs
4-5 Afternoon Session
6-10 Evening Session
Sunday, May 7
7-8 AM Morning Meditation
9-Noon Closing Session
Noon-1 PM Lunch
Workshop ($325 per person)
Lodging ($50-$324 per person)
Food ($130 per person)
Total: $505-$779 per person
The fee for just the workshop is $325 per person. If money is an issue for you, whether you can pay in part or in whole, please let us know. If you can pay extra for someone else, let us know.
Additionally, because our schedule is packed, because we want people to eat together – as the informal aspects of the workshop are very important to us – and because Boulder Hot Springs is relatively isolated from other places, we highly recommend staying and eating at Boulder Hot Springs.
Here are options for people who staying at the Hot Springs.
Guest and B&B Rooms at Boulder Hot Springs: There are 17 guest rooms and 12 B&B rooms currently available by reservation only at a special group rate. The rooms accommodate from one to four overnight guests depending on which room it is. All rooms have sinks in them. Some of the rooms have private baths, and others share a common bathroom down the hall. Guest Rooms cost $80-$95 per night for single accommodations and $110-$120 per night for double accommodations. More elegant B&B rooms are available for $120-$130 for single accommodations and $140-$150 for double accommodations. All of the rooms include use of the geothermal pools and steam rooms, and are taxed at 8% for the Montana Lodging Tax.
Camping at Boulder Hot Springs: Create your own campsite in back of the building or up in the trees. Tents and campers are welcome; however, there are no hookups. Camping fees are $25 per night per person, including use of the bathhouse and building facilities (yes, that does mean access to the hot springs!)
Meals are $65 per day and therefore for two full days of meals (six meals – Friday dinner-Sunday lunch), totaling $130.
How to pay: For the $325 per person workshop fee, you can pay Dee Elle and Jim directly on the registration page for the site or separately make arrangements for payment. For lodging and accommodations, Boulder Hot Springs asks that you contact them directly at 406-225-4339. Tell them that you are with the Intimacy Playground workshop to make your reservation. You pay Boulder Hot Springs onsite during your stay.
Three-tiled indoor pools, with changing and shower areas, offer separate soaking facilities for women (every other pool is co-ed) in healing geothermal waters. Back in 1910, Helena chemist Emil Starz found the water from Boulder Hot Springs to contain some of the earth’s most beneficial medicinal salts, thought to be effective in treating many physical conditions. And, they still do today. Water flows from the ground at temperatures between 140° and 160° F and is kept at approximately 104°-106° in the baths. Plunges are open to campers and room guests seven days a week. If you have any health issues, please consult with a medical advisor you trust before entering the water.
There are three pools and two steam rooms. Women have access to all pools, and men have access to everything but the women's pool and the women's steam room. Nudity is permitted in the women's section, though not in any co-ed section. If you are camping or paying for a room, access to the pools is included with the cost.
We will be taking an extra long break on Saturday afternoon (May 6) so that you have sufficient time to soak. You may also soak if you arrive early for registration.
If by chance you forget your swimsuit or towels, they are available for rent for $1 per swimsuit and/or towel.
Do not bring: The following are not allowed on the premises: